• Grief…

    If  you’ve ever lost someone you loved more than life itself, then you know about grief.  Grief feels like a living, breathing thing that consumes you and fills every single part of your being.  Grief keeps you from sleeping or eating.  Grief makes it hard to breathe or even think.  Grief makes you feel that it will never, ever end.  I remember the minutes and hours and days after each of my parents died…after my two sisters died.  I remember when the love of my life for 39 years lost his battle on this earth – far from me.  I remember wishing I could just go over the grief…or around it.  I remember wishing that months had passed already…but it doesn’t work that way.  Grief is a process.  There is only one way to get past grief – and that is through it.

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  • Music and memories…

    When I was growing up, my older sisters (11, 15 and 18 years older) were playing the music of the fifties. I grew up listening to the sounds featured on the first “youtube” video below. My sisters were wonderful dancers. By the time I was ten and Sharon was eight, we could dance. I don’t know…maybe we had watched my sisters enough. I don’t remember that part. Neither Mama nor Daddy ever owned up to where (from which one of them) we all got the rhythm we had, but we could dance.

    On the weekends, my sisters would occasionally go dancing. They would get all dressed up in the wonderful 1950’s fashions with high heels and go dancing with their boyfriend/husband/fiance. Sharon and I were, of course, much too young, so we’d get in the hallway of the house on Victor Drive with the polished hardwood floors, turn the music up and “bop” (the swing music or boogie-woogie today). I don’t remember Mama ever complaining that the music was too loud or that we were under foot. Most of the time, she and Daddy would be laughing at us.  Eventually, we would get tired.

    I was listening to some great fifties music this afternoon. Those mellow sounds of the wonderful saxophone of Ace Cannon were coming across the built-in speakers all throughout the house. I was dancing to Alley Cat as I cooked supper. I couldn’t help it. The memories were tumbling in and I was a very young teenager again…dancing in the hallway of a little house in Memphis.

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    Of course, the music of the sixties brings back a whole new “set” of memories: high school, college, falling in love, being a young newlywed and, later, having two small children fifteen and a half months apart. Amazing, isn’t it…?

    This is a neat “youtube” video.  If you remember this time, you’ll enjoy it.

    If you don’t remember it, you should enjoy it anyway!  

    After all these years, this is still fun…
    I don’t remember doing all the acrobatics (but some). I tried teaching my granddaughters in Montana a few of these steps and they thought it was fun!  Of course, I must admit that I don’t remember being so out of breath in the sixties!  😉

     

    Dancing with two of my granddaughters at my younger son’s wedding reception…October 2006.
    This post was originally published in my blog, My Southern Heart…the Memories.

  • Remembering…

    The children were in their carseats in the back seat, chatting away.  My daughter and I were talking of plans for the rest of the week.  It was a happy time.  She parked the car in front of the church to take my grandson in for his morning of preschool.  I remained in the car with my granddaughter.

    I watched my daughter’s exchange with another young mother who was coming out of the church building.  My daughter greeted the young woman with smiles and laughter and, then, I watched as her expression changed to a look of disbelief and horror.  I couldn’t imagine what had happened.  As she got into the car she had tears in her eyes and told me what had happened.  Neither of us could believe it.  We hurried home and immediately turned on the televison.  We watched as one unbelievable image after the other played across the screen.  Just as the rest of the country was, we were stunned, unable to truly grasp the magnitude of what we were seeing.

    During the nineties, I held the position of  physician coordinator for a 350 bed hospital in the Midwest.  I had a fancier title than that for a job I loved.  At that time, there were about 150 physicians on staff…doctors from all over the world.  I set up educational events for them.  I met with their office staff and developed an office managers council.  I traveled through eight surrounding counties and met the physicians serving there.  I provided the necessary OSHA training for them to meet federal regulations.  I recruited other physicians as needed.  I planned special events for the physicians and their families.  Through it all, I came to know the doctors and some of their families.  Doctors from all over the world.  So many different “religions” were represented. 

    As a strong Christian and believer, I am tolerant and respectful of others.  I did my best to let the physicians I worked with see my faith in action.  During Ramadan, I would plan the special training events with meals after sundown.  One particular Ramadan, I was invited to the special service on the last day and then to the celebration breakfast at one of the doctor’s homes.  A fellow staff member and I sat in the back of the service and observed quietly, our simple head scarves in place.  I tried the different, but delicious, foods at the breakfast.  They were pleased we had come and thanked us many times.

    I TRY to reconcile this only personal knowledge of Muslims that I have with the terrorists – the madmen – who maliciously, in pure dark hatred, sought to destroy America.  I cannot.  I cannot understand jihad.  I cannot, and I will not tolerate the horrendous practice of Muslim Sharia Law.   I cannot begin to comprehend the raw hatred that propels ISIS in their desire to extinguish Christians and other non-Muslims from the face of the earth.  I may be a “non-political” grandmother of nine, but this American will fight this darkness with all that is within me!

    It has been 13 years now since so many innocent people lost their lives, but we have not forgotten.  We will not forget.  We will not forget those who had plans that day with their lives stretching out ahead of them – just as you and I do.  Those who were headed home after a long trip and missing their families.  Those who left loved ones behind while on a business trip.  The children who will never grow up.  The pilots and flight attendants working that day – all leaving beloved families and friends behind.  Today, we remember the heroes who fought to save those in the burning structures and lost their lives in the process as well.  We are thankful for the heroes who made it out alive, saving others with their brave actions.  Our hearts are heavy for the families and friends who feel the grief anew each and every September 11th.  Praying today for those who are hurting…and for a measure of peace with each passing day that only God can give.  

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    Part of this post was originally posted in my blog, My Southern Heart, in 2010.

  • Sunday morning reflections…

    It’s was 56 degrees in Iowa this morning with bright sunshine and clear blue skies…reminding me that my favorite season is quickly approaching.  I’m under the weather this morning after several nights of much less than adequate sleep, so I will put the praise music on and enjoy a time of worship here in my porch rocking chair.

    Yesterday afternoon, my friend and downstairs neighbor Susan and I ventured out in the beautiful weather for a few hours.  The goal wasn’t necessarily to purchase anything – although I did find a tiered stacking rack for the spices in my pantry and a couple of Autumn dish towels.  The goal was just to enjoy the afternoon.  Apparently, everyone else in West Des Moines had the same idea!

    We ended up eating a late mid-afternoon meal at one of my favorite places – Famous Dave’s.  Memphis Barbecue was featured on the menu as well as Georgia Pulled Pork (which I had).  Having grown up in Memphis, I wondered how Dave knew so much about Southern barbecue.  Click the link and read his story!  Believe me, if Famous Dave’s were in Memphis, they would give Corky’s and the Rendezvous a run for their money!  Everything I’ve eaten there is delicious.

    To be honest though, barbecue always makes me homesick for the South, since it’s a Southern “comfort food”.  In the featured photo above, I am having Corky’s barbecue at Penny’s house the Friday night after Thanksgiving in Memphis in 2012 with my niece Sharon and her husband Tommy.  I miss them and can’t wait to see them on October 1st when I fly into Memphis!

  • One week home…

    It’s hard to believe that I flew home from Montana just one week ago today.  Flying into the Des Moines airport last Wednesday, I was struck with the beauty of the patchwork of rolling hills, the enormous farms visible from our descending height and especially with how superbly green everything was.  Granted, there are no snow-capped mountains here in Iowa but the Iowa Heartland is beautiful all the same.

    It has been a very busy week – filled with a few technicolor Midwest storms, torrential rain and today there was sunshine with cloudless, clear blue skies and a high of 85 degrees.

    On Sunday afternoon, we celebrated my granddaughter’s 15th birthday.  Her paternal grandparents were there, I was there, her parents and siblings…and about about ten of her friends who wanted to turn the special event into a surprise party!

    My assignment was to get my granddaughter out of the house while the friends arrived and the house was decorated.  I decided to treat her to several books at one of her favorite stores:  Barnes & Noble.  Unknown to her, we were on a time schedule and I had to have her back home in time for the surprise.  My daughter warned me to let my granddaughter enter first.  I did but I still managed to get my share of “silly string” too!

    My daughter made a huge pan of her delicious Penne Rustica.  I made a gigantic tossed salad and three loaves of french bread.  My granddaughter had requested my daughter’s homemade delicious chocolate cake with vanilla icing.  Scrumptious!

    All in all, it has been a busy week with a lot crammed into it.  I love traveling but, for now, I’m glad to be home…

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    Above:  with her younger sister in 2014.

    Below:  one of my favorite pics of her as a toddler.

  • Texting and driving…

    I was out this morning running a few last minute errands in preparation for my flight to Montana in the morning.  I am so excited to see my oldest and his precious family…especially three beautiful granddaughters!  They are all growing up so fast and I love every minute I have to spend with them.  Their entire family loves the outdoors and loves Montana – especially hiking, mountain biking and camping.  I was reminded to bring “good shoes” which I will be wearing but I’m not taking my dirty hiking boots!  Surely, they know this Grandmom couldn’t keep up with them on the trails.  Right?!

    My tall stack of library books was going to come due while I’m away with  no more renewals allowed.  So I stopped by the library and dropped them in the book drop.  Then off to Walmart where I stocked up on a few surprises for the girls and a few toiletries.  Not sure what my allergies will do in Montana, so I picked up some Sudafed just in case.

    It was a good thing I was alert – and definitely oriented – since a young woman dressed in a high-powered business suit and heels came plowing quickly around the corner – literally missing me by an inch.  Not exactly sure what happens when you are hit head-on with a full cart of groceries traveling at an indoor-high-speed, but I don’t think it would be a pretty picture.

     

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    She apologized profusely, and said “this is what happens every time I TEXT and DRIVE!”  There in her hand was the evidence.  An iPhone mid-message.  She really was texting and attempting to fly down the aisle with a heavy cart without a clue about her surroundings.

    I wondered if she really did text messages while beyond the wheel of an automobile!?  I wondered if she had read the statistics and had seen the photos of the tragic consequences of texting while driving?  Maybe this near accident – albeit a shopping cart – was a wake-up call for her to put the phone down and pay attention to the road/grocery store aisle?!

    Since her fast-moving-cart was aimed for me personally, I was just glad she didn’t hit me!  I wouldn’t want to miss my trip in the morning for any reason!